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We gather strength as we go

Having a conversation with my daughter about how she and her friends treat one another can be such a challenge. Middle school girls are almost impossible to deal with. Typically involves crying and me taking a lot of deep breaths before I speak and offer any kind of wisdom 

High school and mean girls was my living hell. What I know know is that none of it mattered except how those interactions formed my personal level of confidence and self worth. 

My mom worked a ton and my Dad was away for work a great deal. So I floundered and made grave mistakes. 

Today I try to express to my kids this when they are facing mean girls or overly competitive boys talking smack: “transform fear into prudence , pain into transformation, mistakes into initiation, and desire into undertaking.” Nassim NTaleb

These are things we practice all our lives and may never achieve perfection. We can certainly become better people than we are currently. That’s all I want my daughter to know as she goes back to the lunch table and faces off with snarky comments. I told her to not back down and don’t lash out. Stay positive and smile. Stoics had a great idea. We all need to practice the philosophy more and be kind to one another. 

Under the comb the tangle and the straight path are the same.   -Heraclitus

Reading “the obstacle is the way”, validating what I already believe. We can run from our problems, if we don’t see a way around them, then it is best embrace our situation and we find a way through them. 

A Self Employed Rant and a Little Jack

Give a Listen Now to What helps me along

I love this blog thing. It will be my next career. My first love in life was reading and writing. I always wanted to be a writer but didn’t know how to make a living at it. I have been told I write good copy, but I never pursued it as a career. Writing for my own blog is such a blessing. Finishing and self publishing my first book was amazing. And being on the cusp of finishing another is more than I dreamed I would ever accomplish.

Life is about layers, getting older, learning more about ourselves. There is still so much I want to do, learn and be better at.

Right now it seems like its more about forgiveness. I need to , we all need to, forgive ourselves for all the things we can’t get to in the now. I have kids and the #struggleisreal. There are just not enough hours in the day to get shit done. My biggest complaint right now is that I have no control of how others choose to live and work and facilitate me getting shit done. That is the most annoying piece of everything.

What I do to take care of my mind in this is to think back to some of my favorite music by #JackJohnson, his lyrics remind us of the life style we live in a beach town, surf community. Surfing is all about living in the now, not the future, or past. Eckert Tolle teaches the same thing. I believe that by living in the now makes it easier for us to live up to God’s potential in us.

Truth be told I have to tell myself these things a hundred times a day. With each phone call, stress builds, demands are made of us, everyone seems to need everything yesterday.

The trick is to feel enough of being blessed and doing something you love that will take you through the 12-14 hour days of drudgery.

One More For Fun … Thank you Jack, see you in St. Augustine!

Single most important reason to hustle: You’re going to die. Single most important question to ask yourself. What will be your legacy?


Yep. We’re all gonna die. Life is too short. Seems like forever when you’re a kid. Then after 30 life seems to scream by. 

Throw kids in the mix and you feel like you barely have time to breath. 

Your legacy doesn’t have to be a Golden Gate Bridge or a speech to end slavery. Your legacy can simply be raising children who care for others, creating a community program for seniors who share your passion, or building something cool at work that makes life easier for others. 

Give yourself credit for what you have created. Then HUSTLE and create more. Build a legacy with depth and breadth. 

Success is an Attitude

Success : This is an attitude, I have succeeded in everything I have undertaken. I visualize, I plan, and make it happen. It may not always end up how I first see it, but I have learned to let things evolve and become what they want to be. If I foster an idea and put forth the effort , find resources, plan and adjust, refine, my ventures always come to fruition. I take the same positive attitude when I am ready to ramp a certain aspect up of an existing project. I am sure I have some peter out or completely implode, but I choose to not give them the energy they certainly don’t deserve. On to bigger and better things. Learn what you can from it and move on, never giving up. I remember hearing that Henry Ford filed for bankruptcy just before his great Model T came to fruition.

Tackle your future now…

Focal Point: A Proven System to Simplify Your Life, Double Your Productivity, and Achieve All Your Goals

Amazon says,” The true secret of high achievers is that they know how to find their “”focal point”” — the one thing they should do, at any given moment, to get the best possible results in each area of their lives…”

I am most of the way through this one. Pretty good, but more or less restating what he has in other books. He is great at putting into real actions how to create goals for all the facets  of your life. Its a good easy read for sure and reaffirming to continue on the path you are on.

3 Steps to Simply Start on the Road to Success : Mirror, Mirror on the Wall… Who’s the Most Happy, Prosperous and Giving of them All?

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So the saying goes something like : Attract What you Expect; Reflect What You Desire; Become what You Respect and Mirror What you Admire.

I know this may be over simplified, but the reality of how we live our lives truly gets in the way of us spending a ton of time to reflect and create new habits. I do my best to find straight forward simple ideas to follow that I can rattle off to myself when I need to.

My son just walked in to the office and asked what I was doing and what that quote meant. I stuck with the last piece of the quote… mirror what you admire.

One: I try to think to myself “What would Jesus do in this situation and then what would Barbara Corcoran do (business woman I  admire).” I shoot for a balance, but look to those I admire for guidance and mirror there actions, or what I believe would be their actions.

Two: Follow this simple rule, always dress one level up from those you will be around. We figured this out during our art show days. There is a level of perceived value you can achieve with how you present yourself to the world. People will value you and your work more if you actually look the part, as though you look like you value yourself. No yoga pants or sweat pants outside of your house. I dont care how comfortable they are.

Three: Act as if …. Act as if you already are Barbara Corcoran, Steve Jobbs, or anyone in your field that you admire. Act like them (assuming they are respectful) do what they do, Barbara said she would give her self a pep talk before she went into a meeting. Positive self talk is a great habit to embrace.

1,2,3… You’re on the road!

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