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We gather strength as we go

Having a conversation with my daughter about how she and her friends treat one another can be such a challenge. Middle school girls are almost impossible to deal with. Typically involves crying and me taking a lot of deep breaths before I speak and offer any kind of wisdom 

High school and mean girls was my living hell. What I know know is that none of it mattered except how those interactions formed my personal level of confidence and self worth. 

My mom worked a ton and my Dad was away for work a great deal. So I floundered and made grave mistakes. 

Today I try to express to my kids this when they are facing mean girls or overly competitive boys talking smack: “transform fear into prudence , pain into transformation, mistakes into initiation, and desire into undertaking.” Nassim NTaleb

These are things we practice all our lives and may never achieve perfection. We can certainly become better people than we are currently. That’s all I want my daughter to know as she goes back to the lunch table and faces off with snarky comments. I told her to not back down and don’t lash out. Stay positive and smile. Stoics had a great idea. We all need to practice the philosophy more and be kind to one another. 

Under the comb the tangle and the straight path are the same.   -Heraclitus

Reading “the obstacle is the way”, validating what I already believe. We can run from our problems, if we don’t see a way around them, then it is best embrace our situation and we find a way through them. 

Single most important reason to hustle: You’re going to die. Single most important question to ask yourself. What will be your legacy?


Yep. We’re all gonna die. Life is too short. Seems like forever when you’re a kid. Then after 30 life seems to scream by. 

Throw kids in the mix and you feel like you barely have time to breath. 

Your legacy doesn’t have to be a Golden Gate Bridge or a speech to end slavery. Your legacy can simply be raising children who care for others, creating a community program for seniors who share your passion, or building something cool at work that makes life easier for others. 

Give yourself credit for what you have created. Then HUSTLE and create more. Build a legacy with depth and breadth. 

Persistence Pays

per·sist·ent

pərˈsist(ə)nt/

adjective

1.continuing firmly or obstinately in a course of action in spite of difficulty or opposition.


“Discipline, consistent and persistent actions are more of a determining factor in the creation of success than any other combination of things.” Grant Cardone

This is what I’m reading right now from Cardone   Click image to see more

This guy totally annoys me but is spot on. He is in sales and is a deal maker. He is in your face and believes what I believe about how to live up to Gods potential in us. For him it’s our duty , our sole responsibility to be all we can be or we are letting our family down and for me letting God down.

I realize first you need to define what success is for you . Then consider those levels of success as the starting point. You need  amplify your goals so that they are so big you cant ignore them. I have several super huge goals that my take a miracle to accomplish, but having them so big keeps me focused on what I really want to accomplish. I ever get even a little close to those goals, I will have accomplished amazing things I am sure of it.

The thing I practice is persistence. It is generally in the face of opposition. I have to say that’s what keeps it interesting. I remember (just saying this, my poor Mom, I love her dearly, she worked my entire childhood and was married to a pilot, so pretty much single parenting it the whole way) one night at dinner, I was told that I was fine the way I was, an average kid, getting average grades, I should consider being a secretary or an assistant. I still remember being furious that that was what I had to look forward to. Then at 14 I worked in the little FBO my father flew out of at the front desk for the summer. I wrote fuel tickets and made coffee for the pilots passing through. I went to the office manager for something and Don said to me something along the lines of “really Jennifer you have to start thinking for yourself”. I was mortified. I thought I was doing a good job! I was 14, I didn’t know what that meant really. And yet again in College, I tended bar during the week across from campus. During the football games I was relegated to waitress. My boss Pam didn’t think I was up to the task of tending bar with such a huge crowd. Over and over again in my life somehow I have given people the impression that I am incapable. Am I too nice? Do i not show enough confidence? Am I average? Maybe….but what I do have is choice, choice to take action.

Here is where you can make the choice I made to make your life a better life. Choose to make these obstacles into objectives. When I asked why I wasn’t given the opportunities I was working for and given answers, reasons why I wasn’t moving forward, these answers became my objectives to fulfill. I have learned to think for myself, to insist I be considered, and to never give up in the face of adversity.

Stay persistent in anything you have a dream to do. I have about 6 projects I am working on and I refuse to let any of them go. I know in time everything will come to fruition. Your dreams will come true as well, just keep going, find people to support you, if not family and friends find them online, hire a coach, what ever it takes to build what ever you are working on.

The quality of a person’s life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavor. Vince Lombardi

This is the lesson I try to teach my children over and over. What we want out of something, wehappy need to put that energy into it.

If we continually live with the attitude of entitlement without acting on our intentions or wants , nothing of worth will come our way. That doesn’t mean we should stop expecting things we want to happen. There is a difference in living with expectations to bring about what you want and feeling you deserve possibly more than what you should really receive. If you are grateful, giving and kind those attributes will come back to you if you keep faith and act as if those things are already present in your life.

It’s a fine line there, but one worth exploring for sure

A Reason to Stop … and Really Think….

wisdom

“According to an ancient legend, there was a time when ordinary people had access to all the knowledge of the gods. Yet time and again, they ignored this wisdom. One day, the gods grew tired of so freely giving a gift the people didn’t use, so they decided to hide this precious wisdom where only the most committed of seekers would discover it. They believed that if people had to work to find this wisdom, they would use it more carefully. One of the gods suggested that they bury it deep in the earth. No, the others said— too many people could easily dig down and find it. “Let’s put it in the deepest ocean,” suggested one of the gods, but that idea was also rejected. They knew that people would one day learn to dive and thus would find it too easily. One of the gods suggested hiding it on the highest mountaintop, but it was quickly agreed that people could climb mountains. Finally, one of the wisest gods suggested, “Let’s hide it deep inside the people themselves. They’ll never think to look in there.” And so it came to be— and so it continues today.”

And this is why it is part of my morning ritual to sit and think, to pray on what I have to do for the day, to get in touch with what God has put in my mind, and to open up the channel God share with me. I believe I will be transformed by the quieting of my mind