Having a conversation with my daughter about how she and her friends treat one another can be such a challenge. Middle school girls are almost impossible to deal with. Typically involves crying and me taking a lot of deep breaths before I speak and offer any kind of wisdom
High school and mean girls was my living hell. What I know know is that none of it mattered except how those interactions formed my personal level of confidence and self worth.
My mom worked a ton and my Dad was away for work a great deal. So I floundered and made grave mistakes.
Today I try to express to my kids this when they are facing mean girls or overly competitive boys talking smack: “transform fear into prudence , pain into transformation, mistakes into initiation, and desire into undertaking.” Nassim NTaleb
These are things we practice all our lives and may never achieve perfection. We can certainly become better people than we are currently. That’s all I want my daughter to know as she goes back to the lunch table and faces off with snarky comments. I told her to not back down and don’t lash out. Stay positive and smile. Stoics had a great idea. We all need to practice the philosophy more and be kind to one another.
Reading “the obstacle is the way”, validating what I already believe. We can run from our problems, if we don’t see a way around them, then it is best embrace our situation and we find a way through them.
Still reading “the mind connection…” By Meyer. We just need reminders of who we want to be, who we think our higher power wants us to be and who we should be for our children and our neighbors.
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light. Matthew 11:28 to 30
Come to Jesus, talk openly with him about the way you were feeling, and ask him to reveal to you the changes you need to make in order to begin to heal.”
And I would add here talk to your source and ask him to reveal all of the answers to your questions. You have to be quiet and listen. You will recognize the difference between the harried crazy voice of your pride and the calm true voice of your source.
“they say that only a fool thinks he can keep doing the same thing and get a different result. Prayer doesn’t always result in a miraculous delivery from our problems. More often, it results in God giving us wisdom and revealing what we need to do to affect positive change.”
Looking at Monday of a busy week with lots of meetings. There will be lots of prayer in the car on the way.