The simplest way to take control of your life is to take responsibility for everything that happens to you.
If you find yourself saying things along the lines of “Bob is always getting the good projects at work and my boss never gives them to me.” You are making excuses for your own behavior. Turn your language around. “What can I do to show my boss I deserve the best projects, how can I earn his respect…”
The reality is no one is doing anything to you . This is only your own perception. Take control of your life. I would challenge you to change Any statement you make to blame someone else to blaming yourself.
I can’t loose weight because my wife brings home junk food from the store. (Excuse and blame)
I am doing the grocery shopping at least once a month and buying healthy snacks. (Taking ownership and responsibility)
Wasn’t that simple? I can tell you simple is not always easy. Practice practice practice the language you use. Stop yourself and make the correction on the spot.