Raising A Girl: Walking a Mine Feild and a Bible Quote

All I can think is “wow was I like that?” I’m sure I was at some point in time. And damn, how did I survive?

My children know me for my speeches on how to cope and become better people in a big world. 

Don’t get me wrong, the classic lines of #dontdoanythingstupid or #dontdowhatyourfatjerdid come out of my mouth constantly. I am still married and my husband is a bit of a dare devil. There is a story about diving off a cliff in Sedona and being lucky to be alive. 

This week the theme is individuality. Lucky for me I have a degree in English and can spew plenty of words on a dime. When I need to keep it short, my fall back is the Bible. 

My daughter has 2 new friends in the neighborhood. They are a year older. They all seem to get along great. This has to do with the other 2 girls having the same skate board. Now Stella wants a new one. I am encouraging her to not get the same design. 

God has designed us each individually as Brian Houston of Hillsong Church puts it. “To function in the measure or sphere with which he has uniquely appointed us”.

(Romans 12:3-6)

For I say, through the grace given to me, to everyone who is among you, not to think, but to think soberly, as God has dealt to each one a measure of faith. For as we have members in one body, but all the members do not have the same function, so we, being many, arenone body in Christ, and individually members of one another. Having them gifts differing according to the grace that is given to us, let us use them. 

As girls they want so much to feel accepted into a group. Part of that is having the same style of clothes, hair and in this case skateboards. 

My speech to them goes along the line that a group of girlfriends who revere one another for their individuality of style and personality will gain more strength together. They will endure tests of others who will judge them. The tribe can be strong not because they look alike on the outside but because they respect one another on the inside. 

I have rules. One of the Marsch Clan rules is that we break from the pack. Our goals is to be different and proud of it. We own our idiosyncrasies. We don’t compete, we dominate. 

One thought on “Raising A Girl: Walking a Mine Feild and a Bible Quote

  1. Joanna banana

    Great words Jen! I just told one of my YG girls last week “in a world of duck faces, be the smile. Because eventually duck face will be dumb and you’ll hate your pictures when you grow up”. They all want to do the same, be the same. But man oh man when they realize their own individuality it’s incredible. Every picture of her I’ve seen on SM since has been a smile in a sea of duck face.

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