A Self Employed Rant and a Little Jack

Give a Listen Now to What helps me along

I love this blog thing. It will be my next career. My first love in life was reading and writing. I always wanted to be a writer but didn’t know how to make a living at it. I have been told I write good copy, but I never pursued it as a career. Writing for my own blog is such a blessing. Finishing and self publishing my first book was amazing. And being on the cusp of finishing another is more than I dreamed I would ever accomplish.

Life is about layers, getting older, learning more about ourselves. There is still so much I want to do, learn and be better at.

Right now it seems like its more about forgiveness. I need to , we all need to, forgive ourselves for all the things we can’t get to in the now. I have kids and the #struggleisreal. There are just not enough hours in the day to get shit done. My biggest complaint right now is that I have no control of how others choose to live and work and facilitate me getting shit done. That is the most annoying piece of everything.

What I do to take care of my mind in this is to think back to some of my favorite music by #JackJohnson, his lyrics remind us of the life style we live in a beach town, surf community. Surfing is all about living in the now, not the future, or past. Eckert Tolle teaches the same thing. I believe that by living in the now makes it easier for us to live up to God’s potential in us.

Truth be told I have to tell myself these things a hundred times a day. With each phone call, stress builds, demands are made of us, everyone seems to need everything yesterday.

The trick is to feel enough of being blessed and doing something you love that will take you through the 12-14 hour days of drudgery.

One More For Fun … Thank you Jack, see you in St. Augustine!

Single most important reason to hustle: You’re going to die. Single most important question to ask yourself. What will be your legacy?


Yep. We’re all gonna die. Life is too short. Seems like forever when you’re a kid. Then after 30 life seems to scream by. 

Throw kids in the mix and you feel like you barely have time to breath. 

Your legacy doesn’t have to be a Golden Gate Bridge or a speech to end slavery. Your legacy can simply be raising children who care for others, creating a community program for seniors who share your passion, or building something cool at work that makes life easier for others. 

Give yourself credit for what you have created. Then HUSTLE and create more. Build a legacy with depth and breadth. 

Get Out Your Longest Spoon: Why the Why is Important

I’m reading “Your money or your life” by Vicki Robin. She shares an old teaching tale…

“A young man wanted to know the difference between heaven and hell. A Sage led him to two rooms with observation portals, one labeled heaven one labeled hell. looking in at hell he saw a banquet table filled with luscious food but the people at The table work emaciated and distressed. They are spoons had a long handles to reach the food, but the handles were too long to bring the food to their mouth’s. Then he looked in on heaven. Same table full of luscious food. Same long spoons. But the people were healthy and happy and using their long handled spoon to feed one another”.

This story is at the heart of it all really. It’s all so simple. I’ll say it bluntly.

People: please stop being greedy, if you have more than you need then help your neighbor, help your kids get to a better place, raise all around you up with you.

If you don’t have much and are struggling, give a smile, give kindness and positivity. You are still raising others up with you.

We are not super wealthy people. We are amazingly rich in our family, our friends, we are blessed to have plenty of work and we do our best to do a good job and do good for others as much as we can.

Get out your long spoon and feed your soul!

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A balanced life is for suckers

I always love to read articles about how I should work towards a good work life balance. I pretty much think they are written by people who are 20 something and have no children.

As a working mom and a wife, I think there is no such thing as true balance. Life never works out the way we hope. If I don’t run by 6 am it doesn’t happen. There is soccer practice, making dinner and folding at least 3 loads of laundry a day, walking the dog, dr’s appointments, all of which get in the way.

There are small practices that keep me more on track. These are a few. I do get off track occasionally but that’s ok. That’s what forgiveness is all about. Just reset the crazy train back to the gravy train.

Small thing one: Prioritize and ditch distractions, align your goals with what you want in your life. How we spend our time is the first clue. Look back at your day. Where did you spend time and with whom. Did they keep you on your track toward satisfaction or path of distraction? I love social media. I am more of a poster and not troller. I put things up and spend very little time scrolling through. Weekends are a different story. I let myself scroll and relax.

Do you know what your goals are? If you don’t name them how will you know if you’re on the right path. Write em down.

Small thing two: Eliminate  time wasting activities and people. Yep I said it. People. Looking back at your day who could you have avoided that ate up an hour and a half of beautiful sunlight with some bs complaining or talking smack. When you see their name pop up on your phone hit DECLINE!

Small thing three: Take a vacation or just spend time with family. Yeah I know… make it happen anyway. Carve that shit out. No one gives this to you. If you don’t take time for yourself you are shit out of luck. For me it’s a guilt trip. I feel totally guilty for taking a walk or doing anything in the evening without the kids. It’s a practice thing. Kids are getting older and I am leaving them more. It’s all good they are gaining a sense of self with more freedom and trust is building.

There is certainly a season for everything so don’t kill yourself for not doing things for yourself sooner. But do it. Make arrangements. Make it happen.

Small thing four: Get lots of exercise. Bahahaha!!!!!! I run early. That’s all I can handle. Then I try to find a couple things that are fun to do with the family and call it exercise. Just try your best to keep it up long term. Make it fun. Do it with friends. Groups change. Don’t give up. Find other friends who do other things. Keep trying.

Small thing five: Hire a personal coach, if not find a mentor, if not at least surround yourself with friends who are supportive, ambitious, mindful, creative even if they dont share your political beliefs.

Small thing six: set boundaries and learn to say no. Easiest thing ever to set those boundaries. Hardest to follow your own rules. Again it’s a practice. Practice saying no to others who put demands on you. Slowly they will stop trying to rule your life.
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3 easy ways to get more done and stay out of That cursed rabbit hole!


noun: rabbit hole; plural noun: rabbit holes

1.

a rabbit’s burrow.

“a heather-covered hillside full of rabbit holes”

2.

used to refer to a bizarre, confusing, or nonsensical situation or environment, typically one from which it is difficult to extricate oneself.

I am so guilty of going down that rabbit hole of internet searches calling it research and development. What a joke. Those ads to the side get me everytime. Ooh pretty shiny thing, I’ll just look for a sec. Next thing you know it’s 2 hours later and I have done nothing to my website and my deadline for that project is ever looming. So this is my practice. 

1. Set scheduled times in your calendar to be on the internet. Period. Set a timer in your phone to be done in a Certain amount of time. When it sing dings be strict about getting off the internet and getting on to the next part of your day. I call this compartmentalizing your time. 

2. Create before consuming. Stick to your content calendar. Create your social media posts for your company   Or project. And if there is time left on your timer or schedule then you can surf and consume. 

3. Practice and forgive. Practice and forgive. Practice and forgive. Follow these 2 easy pieces of advice everyday   You’ll find yourself getting more done, scheduling more posts, creating more content. And when you find yourself in the rabbit hole forgive yourself. Start over, it’s about practice it’s not about perfection, it’s just about getting more done. Forgive yourself for when you go down the rabbit hole and you wasted 30 minutes of valuable time of your life and your career. And move on. 

It has taken me a couple of years to be diligent about taking these steps. The way I know it has worked is when I’m with a group and they say hey did you see what blah blah did last weekend? I have no idea. My consumption is way down and creation is way up. I’m getting there and you can too. It’s the simple little things we can do to get better, bebetter amd do more for others and ourselves. 

Now go be brilliant! 

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“Christ hath no hands but yours”

I’m reading “the success principles” again. Every time I read it I find something new and pertinent to my life at that moment. 

This morning I came across a passage that describes a town in Germany where there stands a statue of Christ with its hands blown off during an intense bombing during the war.  The people of the town never replaced the hands. Instead they placed a plaque underneath that reads “Christ hath no hands but yours” pretty incredible the towns people understood this concept and came away with such a great vision for their future. 

God needs our hands to complete His tasks and do his great work. 

Jack Canfield and his book has done this for me over the years. Given me new perspectives to work from.